Wow, it's been a while since I've written. I guess that's what happens when you're so busy with life. The last 2-3 months have been crazy but not as crazy as the last week.
You know those times in life where you wonder if you can really take anything else being added to your plate? We've all said, "I can't deal with another one of these" or "There's no way I can handle another project". There's tons of scenarios. And then someway, somehow, that something else gets added to your plate.
It always ends up feeling like a test to me. A test of my strength and ability to persevere.
When that "straw that breaks the camel's back" happens, the gut reaction is to stress and over think things. Maybe I'm the only one like that. It never seems to fail tho. I can tell myself numerous times "Don't Stress" when that bomb gets dropped and I usually just end up stressing more.
Every scenario starts playing in your head. You try and imagine every possible thing that could happen next and create a game-plan for each one. Don't ask me why this ends up happening, I can't explain it. I think people take comfort in the idea that if they think of every possibility first, whatever ends up happening next can't surprise them because they'll have already thought of it.
It's one thing to be worried or concerned. It's another to over think.
Over thinking just leads to a mess. Your head isn't in the best state to think rationally. You become irritable. You're already emotional. Small tasks start feeling like large tasks. It all adds up and turns into a ball of yuck. Before ya know it, your bad attitude starts rubbing off on other people which leads to arguments and frustration. I said it was a mess, remember?
We have to learn to step on the brake and stop the downward spiral. Track records show the normal process of stressing doesn't do any good, so it's time we change that habit. Over thinking won't change whatever happens next, it's likely going to happen either way. Life will always throw us twists and turns, we just have to take them one step at a time.
Save the emotional energy to plan and tackle the actual facts, not the what-ifs. Keeping your emotions in check will actually allow you to clearly think things through when the time comes. Continue to believe in the things you know to be real and important. Focus on those things until something can actually be done.
If you did get sucked into the do not enter zone called over thinking, it's okay, we've all done it. Take the time to reflect over the last few days or however long. Things probably haven't been going the way you thought and you may have even said some things you didn't mean or didn't think through. (I told you it's hard to think rationally during all this) Apologize to those you may have hurt or offended. Try to relax and face what's ahead in a better way.
Maybe this will help you the next time a situation like this comes up. Maybe you're in a situation like this right now. Either way, stop being a worry wart.
Till next time!
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